It’s funny where life takes us. The places we go to, the people we meet along the way, the experiences and lessons we forever keep in our hearts.. I always believe there’s a reason for everything. One thing that happens, whether happy or not, is there to make us say that “I experience this, I understand how it feels now.”
A month ago I greeted a friend Happy Birthday. Mentioning that my gift will be given late, she invited me to go out with the little brother, Sean. In a way you can say we are long time friends. We’ve known each other since 2007. But I’ve never had much discussions with her and I’m closer with Sean. It was usually common courtesy. Simple hi-hello, invitation to eat when she was eating or simple questions about series, movies or books.
Because I was their brother’s then-girlfriend.
People usually think when you separated with your former partner, the bond you made with his/her family reduces to mere acquaintances. For me, there’s a certain level of respect that remains and the bond never changes, as long as the relationship with them was and still good. The separation is between yourself and a family member of theirs, not yourself and everyone. It is unavoidable at times that, it comes to that sad point though and we all just have to move on.
Anyhow, first weekend of March, that plan materialized. We agreed to meet up in Megamall at 1500 and have an afternoon snack and dinner. I arrived around 1530, being stuck in traffic and having to buy my gift before showing up (which was Sophie Kinsella‘s new book, “I’ve Got Your Number“). We ate at Amici, which was a first for me.
I didn’t get a picture of the pasta nor Ate Val 🙁 (my shyness has kicked in). The gelato above is my first. I always see Gelato stalls and shops but I’ve never tried it. Since Cookies n Cream is myy favorite, I played safe and chose that one. I love Gelato already! So tasty, creamy and doesn’t melt fast. Thanks to Ate for this! ♥
Ate had to leave us, because she will attend church. We waited for her to catch a cab then proceeded to get NSO forms from the mall’s business center. I got two copies each for me and Sean. He needs a copy for him to get his NSO Birth Certificate and I need ones so I can get additional new copies (I had all my first batch used up for the passport and my school records).
We then roamed around the mall, looking at toys and playing in the arcade. I got to buy Nerds while Sean didn’t get to buy anything before Ate went back.
We then walked around and bought finger food for dinner. We first bought Matahari, the original and the veggie variants. I think these are Malaysian snacks and they’re very tasty (and not nakakaumay).
We then went to the food court and ate instant Shabu Shabu.
Sean bought drinks, which was supposed to be something else but the stall’s already close. This buko pandan coconut drink was so oishi! 😀
We went home after eating and parted ways when they aligned from the tricycle in their place. It was a very happy day with a lots of firsts – fun being with them, happy and felt loved that they don’t treat me indifferently.
Thank you Ate! Thank you Sean! Looking forward to the next one ♥
I’m happy for you to have had this chance to still be amicable with your ex and his family. I didn’t have that with any of my past relationships — though I never willed it to. But still, good for you! 🙂
I’m being myself pa din in front of him. I think he is too, but it’s kinda annoying na when he’s asking too much questions.
Anyway, I love his family. I wish he spends more time with them (he lost time again since he’s always with his new gf lol) cause they’re cool people. Thank you! 🙂 ♥
Looks like you really enjoyed the bonding..and the snacks, love them all! So yummy!
I did! and I’m looking forward for more 😀
Hehe, I’m craving for the gelato right now 😉
nice post..great insights too
Thank you! ♥ 😀
It’s great to know that there are still a lot of good things and bond that never change.
Same here 🙂
Everyone’s been busy. I miss them already. 🙁
I like Matahari too!
that buko shake looks good, too bad sa QC lang meron?
The buko shake is already a craze. I see lots of new stalls selling them already. It’s usually at the foodcourt. 🙂
sweet post 🙂
Thank you ♥ 🙂
That was a potentially awkward situation – going out with your ex’s fam, but it seemed you pulled it off graciously. Oh, and you guys ate a lot!!! 😀 I don’t think I can handle having all that food from different restos in one trip to the mall.
Hmm, I was close to them naman, esp. the younger brother so it really wasn’t that awkward. They’re the ones who invited me din and the ex wasn’t mentioned 😛
Hehe, the one with gelato was during 3pm (late lunch) and everything else was dinner in snack propotions 🙂
Oh ok, it’s nice that you’ve remained friends with them despite the break-up with the bro. I wonder what your ex thinks about it, though. And your current BF if you have one. 🙂
Yup, Amici gelatos are to die for. I go there for that. 🙂
Hmm, think what he wants to. I won’t make naman na the same mistake of correcting him.
I had a boyfriend back then, and he didn’t mind at all.
I can remember I took time to eat my gelato. Would definitely go back for that there 🙂
I salute you for still having a connection with your past because not all people are brave enough to still be open once they closed their doors. You guys ate a lot, hehe.
Thank you! 🙂 ♥
Yeah, I could say the same since I’m not used to eat that much now.
It looks like an ordinary day going to mall pero parang kakaiba, parang nasweetan ako. Mmm, I like the way you write, napakabilis kumonek. 🙂 Anyway, hope you had fun with you friends. I miss going to the mall na with my friends. 🙂
Thank you very much for such kind words. I hope to maintain this style of writing 🙂
You should plan na with your friends soon. I bet there’ll be tons of kwento 😉
Very heartwarming post.
You wrote this a day before my 40th birthday! 🙂 hahaha I can’t get over that fact. Also, that more than a couple of things jump out to me, that we share – I loooooooooove Cookies n Cream ice-cream, too, and enjoyed (have not read her in a while) Sophie Kinsella’s novels (it’s awesome that you share this interest with your Ate Val,too).
These kind of “simple” but deep moments make life beautiful. I value relationships, even if one has to go separate ways, it’s possible to continue and evolve to a new kind of connection – maybe in a way a deeper one. 🙂
Thank you! Wow, really? That’s cool!
I haven’t read the book I gave her btw, but I read raves about it online so I decided to give that one instead of Aleph (Paulo Coelho).
I totally agree with you. ♥
Maybe you can be my online ate too? 🙂
http://mishidems.wordpress.com/2012/03/19/some-things-never-change-a-happy-day-with-family/
this sounds sweet naman its true thats its nice to catch up sometimes! xx
Hehe, thank you po! ♥ 🙂
Bonding over good food is always a nice social activity.
True! 😀
That’s sweet. Valuing relationships is the only way to go! – not to break bridges but build one.
Thank you! Friends are like family to me ♥
Hi Mishi,
After reading your post, I was all like… “dude, i so know what you mean!” Especially on this part: “It is unavoidable at times that, it comes to that sad point though and we all just have to move on.” Ang sakit kaya nun 🙁
Anyway, I’m glad you still get along with them really well. Oh, btw. Nice photos 😉
Hehe, true. I was told kasi by the younger brother that he wishes that I’m still his kuya’s gf and their ate likes me din a lot. But it wasn’t meant to be 🙂
Thank you! ♥ :’)
I admire you for maintaining that good relationship with your ex’s siblings. That is humility and emotional maturity.
Thank you po ♥ 🙂
I don’t know if I have the nerve to do what you did. Congrats 🙂
Aww. That’s good naman that you were still able to retain a relationship with your exes siblings. Although for other people it seems awkward, but being exes shouldn’t be in the way of friendship if the other party is willing naman din. 🙂