There are times when we are consumed by our problems that we feel like there’s nothing we can do or there’s no one to help us. On other occasions we look for guidance in making decisions or when we travel, whether for work or vacation, because we worry that something wrong might happen. And there are those times where we’re looking for something that’s missing in our lives.
I’ve been single for quite some time now and as much as it would be nice to have someone, I know I can’t afford to be committed at the time being. I had two failed relationships in the past and a lot of realizations surfaced as time passed by. Aside from the pursuit to reach my dreams and my “things-I-must-accomplish-while-i’m-still-single”, I what to enjoy the freedom my unattached status entails me.
Things are better done with someone? I can agree, but there are things that you want to do for self-fulfillment.
Afraid to be ‘alone’? I used to be. But mind you, you and I never alone. We have ourselves, our families, our friends.
So now what? Way back from the person whose happiness is dependent on other people, this is what I say to everyone, especially to my fellow youth: don’t rush things. Stop the ‘PBB Teens‘ behavior. Learn to love yourselves first and accept the love of God. Finish school, get your ideal or dream job, save for your future, take care of your family and friends, strengthen your relationship with God.
Wait patiently and time will come you will meet the best person to spend the rest of your life with, as promised by Him. For those who were wounded in the past or shielding their hearts, when it comes, don’t resist it. A promise of happiness, contentment and fulfillment will come into your lives. ♥
In the real world, each of us have our set of friends. They come from different backgrounds, might have a different perspective in life, but ultimately we all have something in common that bonds us
In my case those who are close to me are treated like siblings, knows me inside out, and my partners in crime. We are there for each other in times of happiness and of need. We can’t deny the fact that there are friends who are closer to us compared to others – who we call ‘best friends‘.
In the military (US Army in particular), it’s the same thing, but they’re called ‘battle buddy‘.
In conjunction to my earlier post about a past relationship, you might have noticed that aside from a change in theme, I also changed my blog’s title.
One day I went out of the house to buy street food beside our village’s main gate. On my way home, I was getting tired of listening to my favorite songs that I shuffled my playlist and try other tracks that were there but I never really listen to.
Then I came across David Archuleta‘s song from his 2010 album, “The Other Side of Down”. Listening intently to the lyrics, I found a connection to my current dilemma at the time. Add the crazy weather and my sudden preference for everything simple and viola~
Up until now, my old email accounts that I don’t use are still active. I check them once in a while and get rid of spam messages. Sometimes I look over old messages and read them. Yup, those messages our friends pass us like they do in SMS. Some are funny, some are inspiring.
Here’s one that I’ve found worth sharing. It now makes sense to me 🙂
It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are many things about yourself that you didn’t know and may not like. You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now. You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren’t exactly the greatest people you have ever met, and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you don’t recognize is that they are realizing that too, and aren’t really cold, catty, mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you. You look at your job… and it is not even close to what you thought you would be doing, or maybe you are looking for a job and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you. Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and are constantly adding things to your list of what is acceptable and what isn’t. One minute, you are insecure and then the next, secure. You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life, but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away, and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward. You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you. Or you lie in bed and wonder why you can’t meet anyone decent enough that you want to get to know them better. Perhaps you love someone who doesn’t love you back, or worse yet, loves someone else. Or maybe you love someone but love someone else too and cannot figure out why you are doing this because you know that you aren’t a bad person. One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap. Getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic. You go through the same emotions and questions over and over, and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision. You worry about loans, money, the future and making a life for yourself… and while winning the race would be great, right now you’d just like to be a contender! What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out.
The Americans came after and the imposition of the English language gradually reduced the use of Spanish. 1935 Constitution made English an official language alongside Spanish. 1939 came and Tagalog was chosen among regional languages as Wikang Pambansa. It was renamed to Pilipino (1959) and to what we know now as Filipino (1973).
It is no secret that not every Filipino knows how to speak Tagalog and/or English. Depending on the region you live in, you’re most likely taught in your regional language (Ilocano, Cebuano, etc.) and English. And if you do speak English, you have a certain accent, which most of the time people mock you (and the sad thing is, it’s your own countrymen that do).
But after reading an article in Yahoo! Philippines entitled “PH: World’s best country in business English“, I was like “WOW! We beat U.S.? Seriously?”. To top that off, we’re the only country who got a score above of 7.0 and showing that the country’s economy is improving.
This isn’t bias, I assure you. The study was made by GlobalEnglish Corporation.
Very inspiring! It’s more FUN in the Philippines. So Proud to be Pinoy! ♥
We have moments that upon hearing a particular song, it gets stuck with us. You keep singing it, humming it, listening to it. Whether you like the song or not, it does and people call it “Last Song Syndrome” or LSS.
I’m into a particular song for a week or so now, to the point that I can almost perfect the lyrics. The tune is catchy and easy to learn so I don’t have problems with it. I do have the intention to learn the song so I can sing it, but not to the point that I didn’t know why I’m so attached to it.
One of the factors that affect our productivity is our work place. Whether as a student or a professional, we aim to be in an environment where our imagination and creativity is heightened, a place we are comfortable to stay even in long hours and a space that clearly spells “This is me!”.
It is not all the time we get to choose where we work or decorate it. Freelancers and virtual assistants do get to choose though.
Being location-independent, here’s one of my dream set-up:
Looks very productive for writing. A great view, the calmness of the sea, the weather. Perfect ♥
I got into looking for clothes to pin up on one of my Pinterest boards. I suddenly remembered that next week will be the earliest time for one of my plans to be put in motion and I don’t have proper clothes for it.
I honestly don’t have the budget to go shopping now, since I haven’t been paid yet for any of my projects. Hopefully either I get money next week and buy some essentials or the start date gets rescheduled or another plan pushes through.
Me, shopping? Surprise, surprise! My friends know me getting most of my clothes hands-me-down (ala Harry Potter). I do buy some rarely and alone. :))
See the styles I’m aiming for, smart casual ones that are suitable for tropical weather (with little alterations considering my size :3):